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Lasting Happiness is the Key to a Healthy Life

Thursday, February 17th, 2011

There’s a school of psychology that’s gaining some warranted attention recently- it’s called POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY.  Those who study and practice positive psychology believe that happiness is a goal people can and should work towards.  While research suggests that individual’s inherit a certain indexed level of happiness from their parents, it also proves that the index level can be improved.  Good news for those of us that come from a family of worriers!  Knowing how to enjoy life and up your happiness index level might just be the key to increasing your overall health as well.

So, how do we go about increasing our happiness level?  By understanding our personal pleasures and gratifications and increasing the frequency of those things in our lives.

Pleasures are sensory experiences that cause us to feel good albeit fleetingly; ie. eating chocolate ice cream, having sex, a warm bath.

Gratifications are activities we partake in that we like to do and fully engage us.  They can be challenging as well.  Often they require us to draw on our strengths and skills.  In the best case scenario, work is a gratification.  Often the hobbies we engage in prove to be sources of gratification, like yoga, golf, basketball, sewing, scrabble, learning a new language.  These types of activities often have a learning curve and offer the possibility of improvement.  The benefits reaped from gratifications are lasting and create more substantial increase in your happiness level.

Gratifications should be chosen over short-term pleasures.  Over time, pleasures like eating a slice of chocolate cake every night after dinner have a diminishing return on good feelings over time.  You’ll receive your biggest dose of good feelings the first night you indulge but the dose gets smaller and smaller with each passing night’s dessert.  When consumed less and more sparingly, pleasures offer their greatest return.  So, choose carefully when indulging and don’t indulge often, you’ll get more “bang for your buck” that way.  And look into new sources of gratification for 2011 or build on the ones you may have let taper off for whatever reason last year.  It’s only February.  There’s still lots of space left in 2011 to increase your happiness level!

Let me know what sources of gratification you enjoy in the comment section below.

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Health Benefits of Strong Relationships

Saturday, December 18th, 2010

The holiday season is here!  While you are in the midst of gatherings with friends and family members, as well as participating in community, religious, and/or work-related activities, it’s important to look at these events as opportunities to connect with those you truly care about. 

Just like a balanced diet and proper sleep promote good health, so do your social connections.  People with lots of social ties are relatively happier than those without many strong relationships in their lives.  Depression and cognitive decline are linked to a lack in social connectivity. 

Some research suggests that expressing caring behaviors toward others actually releases stress-reducing hormones into the body.  Such behaviors may include offering help, advice or expressions of affection, like hugs and kisses, to another.  The life-enhancing effects are seen both in the giver and the receiver, so it’s good to be on both ends once in awhile.  And unlike regular exercise and a balanced diet, it is much easier to access these types of health promoting activities. 

Not all relationships are created equal though.  The quality of the relationship matters.  Women in unsatisfying marriages or long-term relationships had a higher risk of developing cardiovascular disease than women in satisfying marriages or long-term relationships.  It has also been found that risk for dementia is lower in those with a variety of satisfying relationships in their lives.

Use the holiday season as a time to nurture the strong relationships in your lives.  Try not to get caught up in the whirl of social activity that can sometimes cause the holidays to slip on by, instead focus on and spend time with the people in your life that matter.  Not just family and close friends, but others who add value to your life- mentors, teachers, co-workers.  Be present and actively choose events that will bring joy to your life and enhance those relationships.  Forget the ones that don’t.  And if you don’t have time to see everyone before December 31st, make plans with them in the New Year.  Make sure they know they’re important to you.

Happy Holidays! 

For more advice on how to handle the holiday season, check out the interview I did for CBS Los Angeles last week:

CBS INTERVIEW

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